(Originally posted via Story Sessions)
Every week, Marvia Davidson gives us the chance to participate in Real Talk Tuesday, a synchroblog that explores writing our hard truths. So today, she’s answering my questions about it.
1. Give us the back story – where did you get the idea for Real Talk Tuesday?
I didn’t intend to start Real Talk Tuesday. It was one of those things that just happened (though I think something like it was always rumbling around in my heart). It was an offshoot of where I wanted to take my own writing, but I wanted to do it in community. A few months ago I took part of a healing support group called Mending the Soul. It’s changed my life, my perspective, and how I see authenticity and living out truth. It was all about dealing with hard truths about one’s self and its impact on how we relate to people and issues in our lives. It’s more than that, but that’s the impetus toward healing and restoration. You gotta talk about hard things. You gotta work through all the junk that keeps you bound or that keeps you from not fully living and being your whole, God-made self. If we’re really going to live out true and authentic lives, then we’ve got to wrestle with the depth and width of our pain. Feel the feels, use our voice, say what we need, find safe people with whom we can fully be ourselves, know our power and authority, and not shrink back from the process of being real and whole all the time in every place.
2. You have great prompts that seem to resonate with a lot of people. How do you come up with them?
Hmmm. That’s a great question! I do a lot of quiet pondering. Many times they come between pauses, between breaths, when I’m not doing something or busying about life. They come in wisps while walking in the evenings. They come while staring at the moon. They come while considering music, words, movies, and lyrics that resonate. I sometimes wonder if these little phrases are pockets of holy hush meant to bring me back to the One – as though to remind me Whose I am and why I’m here. Perhaps the resonance is a pull to Someone Greater…
3. In your invitation this week, you say, “As always may our words be seasoned with salt and grace. May our words empower, encourage, and equip.” I love that. Why is this important to remember?
When I first started my blog, I only knew I wanted to write about life, faith, and leaning in when it gets hard. It was never my intention to be any part of the hullabaloo that is the sometimes craziness of the blogosphere. That just doesn’t jive with me. When I think of legacy, I think of what I want to leave behind. I want to leave words that remind people to look up, look out, look within. I want to leave words that remind men and women they matter. You can’t do that when you’re mudslinging, disparaging, and berating. That’s just not me. Even though my blog is seen by few, what matters is that it be a place of grace. I want my little corner of the internet to be a place of reprieve.
4. You are a champion of honoring voices. What does that mean to you?
Mmmmm. It may be life experience and what I’ve walked through, but there is something internally powerful about being seen and being heard by human flesh. To hear another soul listen, look you in the eye, and offer not judgment is freeing. I really first learned about this when I joined a recovery group in 2011. It was a life changing experience. I had a lot of hurts, habits, and hang ups that I felt very ashamed about. The recovery community was a place of total acceptance. No one was trying to fix me. They allowed me to just be. They showed me tools to help me – and they really did help me (that and leaning hard into faith in God). To honor a voice is to welcome others and be a dignity restorer. Jesus did that a lot, and I want to practice the same in my life.
5. Your new website is gorgeous. What advice can you give to people wanting to branch out into hosting their own sites?
Ha! Ha! For reals, though. I just launched it. I had no idea what I was doing, and to an extent still don’t, but I knew it needed to be done because it was just time. It’s a work in progress like me. I’m okay with that. I have an idea of where I want it to go, but I can’t do it alone. I am so inspired by the many women I see blossoming in the Story Sessions community. They keep me going! For those branching out, I’d say ask for help. Ask lots of questions. Trust your “style” gut. I read a several blogs like Jeff Goins and Michael Hyatt, and they were so helpful. I can’t wait to get to do more with the blog.
6. What other projects are you working on? What are you excited about?
I wrapped up writing a second memoir about tearing down lies, faith, and restoration. My next step is editing, book cover design, and getting feedback from beta readers. This is all new for me, and I’m excited about the project. I hope to release it in December of 2014. I am also excited to dive deeper into what it means to be a creative entrepreneur. I have #alltheideas that won’t quit, and I want to do something with the ones that speak to my why and my what. It’s never too late to work the dream, so I’m going after. The rest… well, follow my blog or the Real Talk newsletter to find out more.
Marvia enjoys sharing the journey of life and living fully. She’s a Christ follower learning to just “be.” While her life may not be perfect, she is on the road to “be”-ing and authenticity in Christ. Her desire is to share love, light, hope, words, thoughts, dreams, faith, and whatever else seems good and prudent. She is drawn to encouraging, supporting, mentoring, and helping others. You will find her walking the rockity-bumpity journey of life in the wide open spaces of Texas, sipping tea, drinking coffee, splattered with sugary flour dust while baking with family, laughing and snorting loudly, or dancing ridiculously just because.